How We Love Our Kids by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
I heard about this book through listening to the Midday Connection radio podcast where the Yerkovich's, both counsellors, were interviewed about loving our children well.
When it comes to parenting, many books focus on children's issues and suggest ways to curb undesirable behavior or use specific techniques to change it. This book focuses first of all on teaching parents how to love their children. It is a hope-filled book in that the authors believe it is never too late to repair imperfect relationships. Included are chapters on helping ourselves, helping our children, respecting differences in children, gifts for the healing journey, and listening skills.
What is your parenting love style? Are you an avoider parent? pleaser? vacillator? controller? or victim? Do you know what the *FOO factor is and how it determines how you parent? It's important to work through our own issues before we can truly be the parents our children need.
The truth nugget: "If there is one thing, then, that the anxious parent in each of us is truly guilty of--and that our culture colludes in--it is not necessarily a lack of love, but a failure to look at and to know ourselves." researcher Robert Karen
*family of origin
This sounds like a great resource.
ReplyDeleteI agree that too often we focus on the negative and not the love. This is the life of Christ and the life I long to model as much as I can, Love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength and love your neighbor as yourself. Thanks for reminding us to love.
ReplyDeleteWow. Didn't know there was a book out there about parenting styles, but not surprised. Really, I'd read this, hoping it would shed some light on why we do things the way we do. I appreciate you sharing about it...must see if the library has it.
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